Marriage

So I said I would never return?

I am back, and maybe just for this post.

I would like to say to all the single people that read this blog, stop laying in bed at night wanting nothing but marriage. Stop desiring that more then anything. Being single is an amazing point in your life.

Marriage is not, and this coming from someone who isn't married, a solution to your unhappiness. It is not a solution to your lonliness. It is not a solution to some void in your heart. If you have any of those I would say you are not ready for marriage. Shouldn't God have filled your unhappiness. Shouldn't God have filled your lonliness. Shouldn't you be living a fufilled and amazing life before you get married.

"Now for the matters you wrote about: It is good for a man not to marry."
"Now to the unmarried and the widows I say: It is good for them to stay unmarried, as I am. "
"Are you unmarried? Do not look for a wife."
"But those who marry will face many troubles in this life, and I want to spare you this. "
"I would like you to be free from concern. An unmarried man is concerned about the Lord's affairs—how he can please the Lord. But a married man is concerned about the affairs of this world—how he can please his wife— and his interests are divided. "
"I am saying this for your own good, not to restrict you, but that you may live in a right way in undivided devotion to the Lord. "

Obviously, out of context these verses come across much more abrasive then in, but they still make it very clear. While marriage is an amazing creation ordained by God, It does not solve the problems of your life, it creates more.

I am not against marriage whatsoever, all I am saying, and maybe to just myself, is why not wait a few years. Why not wait till you have found out who you are? Why not wait till you have found God's calling on your life? Why not wait till you are strong in your relationship with God. Why not wait till you are secure in a job and making a secure income? Why not wait till you are financially supporting yourself and able to begin supporting a family? Why rush it? Why end what could be some of the most life changing and impromptu years of your life?

This past weekend, I decided on, i think tuesday?, that i was going to goto georgetown d.c. I just booked the hotel and up and left. Georgetown is one of the most upscale and happening young adult towns in the country. I spent two nights there in an amazing hotel, I enjoyed wonderful food, and shopped at some of the best stores in the country. While I was there, I met some great people, had the Washington Post ask me to do a photo shoot and article on my hair, and just completely enjoyed myself. Simply put, I had an amazing time. I am going to continue to have these amazing times. I spent two weeks in Seattle and San Fransisco earlier this year. I plan on visiting North Carolina and the Salem Universtiy campus in the fall. Other places on my list, Rome, Spain, the caribbean, anywhere really.

Or I guess I could be married, living in a tiny apartment, living check to check, trying to make ends meet. Not able to go out to concerts because I have to stay home and put together patio furniture for a stamp it up party.

It seems that marriage is when you are ready to no longer live your life, but to live it for your wife. And I am all for that, and I know a day will come when I want nothing out of life except to make my wife happy. But not at 23! Not when I havent left the country, not when I haven't expierenced so many wonderful things that can be expierenced. Why commit to something so early and rip yourself out of so much of what you should expierence in life. If one were to get married at 30 and live a life only to 80. That is 50 years of your life together, and 12 years as a single adult. Or get married at 19 or 20, when you've expierenced 1 or 2 years of your life as a single adult! One or two years?!?! That just seems ludicris.

Honestly, its your lives. And I will be happy for you regardless, but I am tired of hearing how 30 is much to long to ever get married. NO ITS NOT. Goto any other place around here, NOBODY else is getting marriend at 19 and 20. Not in the mass that it happens in Northeast Ohio. There is no absolute need to get married, to settle for whoever will say yes to you. Who cares if you are 28 and still single. Love the life you are living, and love the God you are serving.

Live it up! I know I am going to and already am. For the first time I am so amazingly happy with where I am, with being single, with not caring about when I might meet my wife. This has changed alot from where I was. All I wanted was to meet the right girl, and that got my heart ripped out like catching it on a tree branch while falling 25 stories.

My focus is inward, selfish in a way. I want to know who I am, to know my full potential. Maybe I am suppose to be preacher and if I dont take the time to seek out God in this time of being able to give Him my complete focus; maybe I would never find that out.

It seems to me this is the ony time in our lives where we can give complete undivided focus to God. Why not use this time to become as Christ-like as possible. Won't that make me a fitting husband for when the time does come?

Ferrari here I come....Mini Van there you go.

p.s. If you find typos? Deal with it, im not a writer.
p.p.s Dont ask me if this blog is about you. That is your own heart conviciting you. I am writing this about myself, my life and my feelings. It is after all my blog.